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Hugs…Awkward But Necessary

Whether you like hugs or not, you should know that hugs are good for you. There are hundreds of articles that explain the science behind hugs and happiness including the increased oxytocin levels that help strengthen bonds between humans. While hugs are scientifically good for you, they can also be a source of anxiety or stress. For instance, hugs may or may not be appropriate at work; hugs may cause awkwardness at family events; hugs may be a source of physical pain or discomfort for …

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What Fills You With Rage?

Mouth sounds, especially from other humans, fill me with rage. For some reason, the sound of another person chewing is a sound that I can hear 10 times louder than voices. While some people wince at the sound of nails on a chalkboard or rubbing styrofoam squeaks, I shudder, shake, and clench my fists at the sounds of chewing, teeth grinding, ice chewing, slurping, excess saliva, chomping, and deep breathing while eating. Interestingly I’m not grossed out by burping and farting sounds though. My husband …

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Small Things. Big Impact.

When my hustle gets to be too much, sometimes the smallest gesture can make a world of difference, and bring me to tears. I had an encounter yesterday that reminded me of a few nice things people have done for me the past few months, that made a lasting impact. Starting with the most recent — I met a stranger at the nail salon. I bit my nails my whole life, so much that my hands/fingers hurt when I tried to do things. Several years …

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What the F*** is Growing in Our Backyard?

We had a handful of people visit our home for the first time last month. Everyone commented on our trees and made comments about how much they wish they had trees like ours. Huh?!? I remember thinking. Yes, I love how beautiful our trees are. Yes, I spend quite a bit of time staring up at our (likely) hundred-year old trees while laying in my hammock or relaxing in our hot tub. Our trees are beautiful and provide necessary shade for my pale self and …

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Put Your Hands Up!

You know those little lies we tell our kids…the ones we tell for a ‘good’ reason? My ‘good’ reason started with the Demon at Six Flags when my son Oscar was about 8. Oscar was comfortable with rides and rollercoasters but stated on the drive to Six Flags he’d go on anything except rides that went upside-down. I’m the mom and I knew better. I knew he could handle it and he’d love it. So while we neared the line for the Demon, Oscar pointed …

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What Are You Deeply Passionate About?

I am passionate about thinking and about learning, usually centered on the theme of constant improvement. I feel most valued when someone asks for my opinion. I love being a sounding board, knowing that I bring a unique perspective to the table. If I have insights or experience to help make something better, I jump at the chance to share what I know. If I haven’t been there/done that, I probably know someone who has and try my best to connect those people. I’m confident …

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What Do You Bring to the Table?

This isn’t the most beautiful image, but the message resonated with me this week. When someone compliments you, say thank you. And accept what that person says. Many women feel uncomfortable when someone compliments them, and rattle off a list of faults in response. Stop doing that. If you’re having a ‘show and tell’ or sharing session at work, or with family and friends, stop opening your ‘share’ with something like “I know this is stupid but….” or “I know this is lame but….” Accept …

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The Hardest Goodbye

Tomorrow is June 8 and it will not be an easy day for our family. For the last 5 years our family Google Calendar has said “Abbie’s Happy Birthday” on this day. It still says “Abbie’s Happy Birthday” because I don’t have the heart to delete it. Sadly though, we don’t have a 6th birthday to celebrate tomorrow. Instead, we’ll be reflecting back on the short life of our little beagle dog, Abbie Dorothy Helgesen. We rescued Abbie in the fall of 2012 after experiencing …